Ep - 54 How Whitney Quit the Clean Plate Club

Hey friend!  Welcome to the 54th episode of the Emotional Eating Therapist Show. 

In this episode I am joined by a former participant in one of my coaching programs, the Emotional Eating Revolution. Whitney was able to quit the Clean Plate Club, turning in her membership card for good. 

What Whitney didn't know was how much of an impact ending her struggle with emotional eating would have on her entire life. 

Whitney shares how she no longer eats to bursting, gained confidence to pursue and new job and a life long dream. 

I also share a super awesome deal with you

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Sabrina Rogers  0:00  
Hey friend, welcome to the 54th episode of the emotional eating therapist show. In this episode, I am joined by a former participant in one of my coaching programs, the emotional eating revolution. Whitney had such amazing results, and I wanted you to hear firsthand what it's like to work with me. I'm also going to share a super awesome deal with you. So let's get started, shall we? Welcome to the emotional eating therapists Show. I'm your host Sabrina Rogers, a licensed mental health counselor, intuitive eating and body image expert, and recovering perfectionist. After healing my own disordered eating and body image issues. I'm helping women let go of the guilt and shame around eating, feel at peace around food and befriend the image they see in the mirror. In this podcast, we chat about all things food, body and mental health, so that you can stop dieting, let go of perfectionism. And finally, feel confident in all areas of your life. If you want to connect with me on social media, I'm on Instagram, Facebook and tick tock at Sabrina Rogers lmhc. And if you enjoy listening to this podcast, please leave a review on iTunes or wherever you're listening. This helps other women find and learn about the podcast. So they too can change their relationship with food and body. Let's get ready to stay off the diet roller coaster and live healthy ever after some background on Whitney before we hear from her. I've known Whitney for several years as she used to work with my husband. Through working with her we have gotten to know each other really well. And we've become friends. The transformation I got to witness and Whitney was mind blowing. Not only was she able to completely transform her relationship with food, she also gained so much confidence that her whole life began to change. The way we do one thing is the way we do most things. And when we change an aspect of our lives, we tend to see ripple effects in all areas of our lives. Now let's hear from Whitney about those ripple effects for her. Oh, Whitney, I am so excited to have this conversation with you. I am just over the moon at our time working together and I wanted you to be able to share this with other people. Because I think your story is something that people really relate to. But that people don't necessarily talk about. 

Whitney  2:31  
Yes. So I'll be honest, at first, I had some reservations, obviously. Because and I had how, how could emotions cause me to eat? Like How could my emotions which I'm a grown up? I know logically, like I know, logically, I'm sure everyone else does, too. But until you take the time to sit down and actually like give yourself a chance to realize like, Oh, hey, I Hey, that rings with me. So does that. So does that and then, you know, it's not such an oh my gosh, this doesn't apply to me anymore. Like, oh my gosh, how can I have not known? How could I have not known?

Sabrina Rogers  3:35  
what do you mean by that? Like, how can I have not known?

Whitney  3:41  
Like, as, obviously, as an adult, I know, sometimes the things that I choose willingly to put in my body or not. And I and society wise, deemed healthy. But at that time, at that moment, it is what I wanted. It's what I needed. And for a while it worked. And then then it didn't work anymore. And then it doesn't. It makes you feel good for a moment. And then then the guilt sets in. And as an adult, as a woman, like I know what I'm doing. And like I felt like and I'm not going to show it on myself. But I as an adult felt like I could have realized I would have done that if I wouldn't have taken the chance and done this. Because when I was approached me I'm like, How was my emotions? Now I learned a whole bunch of stuff.

Sabrina Rogers  4:49  
Okay, so before we dive into that, so for those of you that don't know Whitney, or myself Whitney and I know each other in real life and and I offered her the opportunity to work with me, knowing that you've got a wedding coming up, and that you just were kind of sad and miserable in a lot of ways. And I really wanted because I could see the potential there, and I really wanted to be able to pull that out of you. Why did you want to work with me? Like, that's why I wanted to work with you. But why did you want to work with me?

Whitney  5:27  
Because, one, your voice is so soothing. And if anyone who hasn't listened to the podcast, do it. Like I literally was anxious going into, I had, like five interviews today with obviously strangers. And it just I don't know, there's something about you, that just puts me at ease. So that was like the first reason. And B made it very clear that it would be a very wasted opportunity if I didn't. And I like I said, I was like, Okay, I don't know how my Olgun is the best decision that I made. 

Sabrina Rogers  6:11  
Why do you say that? Like, what did you get out of it? We've kind of talked about like, Okay, I've already got this insight as to my emotions are tied to my eating. When I recognized my emotions, it changed how I ate sort of, what else did you see from this?

Unknown Speaker  6:28  
Okay, so I'll be honest, when I first went into this, I was like, Okay, well, I guess I can afford to lose some weight before, because I'm getting married in October. And about two or three lessons in, it just wasn't about that anymore. I could have cared less if I lost weight, which I have, like, I am wearing a dress, which would have never happened. I like I could take my overshirt off right now. And I would be like, Look at me, that would

Sabrina Rogers  7:07  
happen. I just want to pause for a minute because it's not. The intention was not to lose weight. Like maybe there was like, oh, maybe I'll do that. But it sounds like, Yeah, I'm losing weight. But not like I have to lose weight. It's this. Yes, it's more of like what you've gained in confidence of regardless of if you lost weight or not. You will never have worn something that goes to your shoulders.

Whitney  7:32  
No, never, I would not have worn anything on my arms. I would have suffered in the summer, I am wearing a overshirt because I am at my place of business. So it's appropriate. But like, I bought tank tops, I bought shorts. And were they in a smaller size? Yes, quite. But it had nothing to do with that. It had everything to do with the confidence that I have gained in doing this. And taking a chance on myself. That's all it was, and you took a chance on me. Don't I'm gonna get all emotional, but like, the chance on me. Like when I couldn't take a chance on myself. Somebody else took a chance on me and it really worked. It really worked so better than you even ever pictured. Yes.

And like I am having more fun. My relationships are going better because like I have stopped tolerating things that don't make me happy.

Sabrina Rogers  8:37  
Can you talk a little bit more about that not tolerating things, because that's one of the biggest growth places that I've seen with you in the last six months. So

Whitney  8:51  
I had a really bad habit of letting everyone in my life walk all over me, my boss, my family, and I don't I which was really hard for me because my I discovered this one of our sessions, like I when my dad passed away my life studstill Like, I stopped living. I stopped existing I was no longer a person. I was just a vessel that was here to do things for others. I wasn't doing anything for myself. I wasn't, you know, I know it's gonna sound silly, but like, I wanted this tattoo and I know it's nerdy. But I wanted this tattoo for 20 years. And I just didn't do it because I was worried about what everyone was gonna think and all this and everything. And it's something that has brought me so much pleasure just habit. And I did it because I wanted to that is like one of the first things in 20 plus years that I have done because I wanted to not. Yeah. Sorry, I don't mean to cut you

Sabrina Rogers  10:07  
off. No, no, I was gonna say not because somebody else told you to or thought you should. But because hey, I like this thing. I like Jurassic Park for those of you that can't see video, if we're only doing audio, she's got this Jurassic Park sleeve that is just amazing.

Whitney  10:23  
I love it. And I don't know, I just every every this program has affected so much. And I cannot I cannot express how much you should do this. If you're listening to this. Even just take a chance on yourself. Do it. Because you're you need to live your life for you. And it took sitting down and listening and taking a chance myself to realize I deserve to have a life. Yeah. Yeah, it's exciting.

Sabrina Rogers  11:06  
It is and who, who knew going into this when, when you were just gonna like work on your emotional eating? Yeah, who knew that this was going to be the outcome? Because it's, it's not just about the food?

Whitney  11:18  
No, it's not. It's not it's about. It's about everything. Just realizing and recognizing what your emotions, your emotions control so much. And I know, obviously, people listening this gonna be like, but until you sit down and write them out, or do the exercises in the programs with the circles and not being able to focus on anything. And it just, you realize how much your emotions play into every aspect in your life. It's a lot.

Sabrina Rogers  12:01  
It is a lot. And then when we realize how much control they have, or how much they influence things and how much our thoughts influence things. Then we can really take a look at it and be like, Oh, this isn't working in my life. I don't like where I'm at right now. I don't like how I'm feeling. Oh, I've got the power to do something about that. Yes.

Whitney  12:25  
And, like, what I tried to explain to people, especially my family, like about the eating, oh, eat this. I don't want to. I'm not hungry right now. Trying to explain to other grownups that I have an adult and I don't need to eat when I'm not hungry. Like I just really listened to an episode about eating when your time schedule says because you're used to eating at that time. I have found like, today, I wasn't hungry until 3pm. So what did I do at 3pm? I ate something small. That's all I wanted. Like, that's all I wanted. That's all I ate. I just I leave food on my plate and it's okay. And I have cut my not because of the weight loss not because like I just want to

Sabrina Rogers  13:20  
know because somebody says that she needs to cut the portions not because you think you need to cut the portions to cut your calories but because you just are not hungry for that amount of food. 

Whitney  13:32  
And if I want it later, I'll eat it. And if I don't, that I will eat it the next day or my roommate will eat it. Like it's not. I don't know, that has been one of the biggest things is the not finishing my plate and not feeling guilty because I didn't finish my plate. That one was really hard for me. Because ever since I was young, that has been you know, drilled in my brain. You don't leave until you finish your plate. That creates a lot of unhealthy expectations, especially for a kid.

Sabrina Rogers  14:03  
Oh, yeah. And you were a die hard member of the clean plate club. Yes. Yes. Yep. And you have since turned in your membership card and you're not going Yes.

Whitney  14:13  
No, I'm not. And I just even so even my fiancee, she says, I don't have to eat this because I'm not hungry. Like, yeah, no, you don't. So just trying to explain it out loud to other people. They genuinely usually look at me like I'm a crazy person first before I'm like, let me explain. Like what we've talked about and what you've talked about in some of your messages. Like when you are born. When you cry, what do you get Boober a bottle. Yep. It's not unrealistic that you have these people have these unrealistic and unhealthy attachments to food, when that's the first thing you get when you're born creates a lot of unhealthy issues. Can,

Sabrina Rogers  15:11  
it can when when the messaging starts to flip that it's not okay. Then we have these mixed messages of like, oh, but this is what I've been doing up until now. And it works. And now you're telling me not to do it anymore?

Whitney  15:28  
Yep, it's very confusing.

Sabrina Rogers  15:30  
It is, especially for like little kids, because that's when we're talking about, like, this happens when we're like, three.

Whitney  15:36  
Yes. Yep. And it is. And it is, I am 33. And it has taken me 30 years to I don't know, realize the amount of damage that can be done. And it's, it's crazy. It's crazy to think it's crazy for me to think about, like, something as simple as taking a chance on myself has led me I am happier. I am sleeping at night. I had the courage to change my career. Like, these are all huge, huge things. And I don't know, if I I know that I would not have done them, I would have just kept taking it. And I would have just been miserable. I would have still I would still be emotionally eating

Sabrina Rogers  16:36  
and hanging yourself up out for it and feeling guilty. Yes,

Whitney  16:40  
yes. Now so this is going to be silly, probably. But I'm gonna tell you anyway. I never in my life would have gone into like a cookie store. Because like I emphasized in my head, I everyone would have been staring at me. Oh, of course, the fat girls in here. But this weekend, I went in to a crumble. And I bought cookies for my fiance and I and I could have sat there and they were delicious. By the way, I could have sat there and ate all of them and made myself miserable sick. And before this program I probably would have because I would have been so anxious about going in there. I mean, I would have I would probably ordered online. But I went in there and took them home. Forgot about them in the car. It just, I don't know, it just wasn't the first thing on my mind. Like I was so excited. Because my fiancee we had a good day. And it was exciting. And we did all this cool stuff together. And then we shared a cookie. And that was it. And it was so good. And there's a still a partial box of them. Because I had the little bit that I wanted. And that was it. And nobody stared at me. Nobody was like, Look at this chunky girl with her arms out. And I don't know, it's just really good. Everything's just been really good.

Sabrina Rogers  18:12  
Yay. Yeah, is there anything else that you want to share?

Whitney  18:17  
I just want to go back to if if there's anyone listening, and you are hesitant, just do it. Like, nobody is gonna believe in yourself more than Sabrina. And nobody, like

this has changed my entire life. And if you don't take a chance on you, nobody else will. And that's, that's sad. But like, you have to believe in yourself and give yourself a chance. Because this is your life. You only get one. And if something and it obviously it's not going to be simple, it's going to be hard. And you're going to learn a lot of things and you're probably going to hurt your own feelings, but it gets better. And if you just work through it, and listen and do the things that she says you're gonna realize a lot of things about yourself. And you're going to feel better in my hurt for a little bit. But you're gonna feel good at the end. Trust me like you're gonna feel good. It's good. And it like I have allowed myself to heal. And I'm still obviously still healing, but I just take a chance on yourself. I can do it. You can do

Sabrina Rogers  19:46  
it. I just appreciate you so much Whitney.

Whitney  19:49  
I appreciate you but I always thought I was just gonna go all in and I did and I'm so glad that I did. If you're skeptical so as I go if you're unsure are so high.

Sabrina Rogers  20:02  
But you had every reason to back out? Yeah. You I mean, looking at just the things that you've gone through in the three months that we were working together, you had every reason to not show up to calls. You had every reason not to do the 1015 minute audio lesson.

Whitney  20:25  
I did, I went back to him. If I was having a bad day, like, read, listen to him, like, do the journal. Do the journal, if anyone's was going to do this program through the journal? Because that is the most telling thing is the journaling. Because anyone can sit there and say, oh, yeah, I probably emotionally but until you put it on paper, do the paper things do the little, the little challenges that she has you do? Do them? Because you will learn? Do it. Just do it?

Sabrina Rogers  20:58  
Do it scared. Do it when when you don't want to do it. Do it for yourself.

Whitney  21:04  
Like on the today, go into the interviews. I wasn't anxious. I was second guessing myself. I seen it like I'm gonna go to this coffee shop. And I'm gonna get a doughnut, because I'm like, I'm so anxious. Well, when I got there, I ordered my regular coffee. And I had listened to part of your podcast. And I was like, What are you doing? Are you hungry? No, you had breakfast? Do you still want that doughnut? Let's breathe a little bit, popped a piece of gum in my mouth, drank my coffee. And I was fine. I was fine. So if you need the extra encouragement, the podcast is always there to

Sabrina Rogers  21:51  
it is I love doing it.

Whitney  21:54  
It is it's good. I made my sister listen to it all the way to Iowa City the other day.

Sabrina Rogers  22:01  
I hope she appreciated it.

Whitney  22:03  
She needs some of the love to.

Sabrina Rogers  22:05  
Well, thank you so much for coming on and sharing your experience. Not not only with me, but anybody else who's out there listening and hesitant. 

Whitney  22:16  
You can message me a nice girl.

Sabrina Rogers  22:19  
She won't bite.

Whitney  22:21  
I won't. But I'm gonna tell you the same thing. Just do it. Take a chance on yourself. You deserve it.

Sabrina Rogers  22:28  
And I'm just going to echo that you you deserve it.

Whitney  22:32  
Thank you. I cannot I cannot thank you enough. There are no words to thank you. You gave me my life back. I gave myself my life back. But you have the opportunity. You gave me the tools in which to give myself my life back.

Sabrina Rogers  22:51  
I was your fairy godmother who opened the doors, sprinkled some fairy dust you did the rest.

Whitney  22:58  
And I will never go back. I'm so happy. That is an that is the biggest compliment. I was in a wedding. And everyone just kept telling me that like, obviously I looked beautiful. Cuz I was. But everyone just kept saying, you look so happy. And in that moment, I realized I would rather be happy than be told. I mean obviously like every girl likes me. I'm like, Oh, that's so nice today. But hearing someone tell me how happy I look. And it was like, all around. Oh my gosh, she looks so happy. You look really happy. Isn't that just what everyone wants just to be happy?

Sabrina Rogers  23:40  
What? What a compliment, because it's one thing when you feel it on the side, but then when other people see it enough that they're like,

Whitney  23:49  
 I'm gonna say yeah, I'm just exuding happiness, apparently. And it is fantastic. Yeah. So take a chance on your I'm just gonna keep saying it until you leave.

Sabrina Rogers  24:03  
I think on that as a good place to wrap up.

Whitney  24:06  
All right. Well, thank you so much. I appreciate you.

Sabrina Rogers  24:10  
I wanted to share what needs story with you in hopes that you can see what could be possible for you. Can I guarantee you will have the same results? No, because you're not the same person. What I do know is that working with me, allowing me to hold on to that hope for you and see what's on the other side until you can see it for yourself will bring about change for you. Because when we do that, when we begin to change your thoughts and beliefs, the real magic starts to unfold because you're taking back your power. Speaking of power, one of the ways I help empower you is by consent, asking and receiving your consent while also encouraging you to ask for and grant yourself consent. I'd love to share some exciting news with you. And before I do, I'd like your consent to share. If you consent To keep listening, if you don't turn me off right now, what if you could trust yourself around food and feel good about yourself? No more feeling like a prisoner to food, no longer worrying about what you're eating and if it will lead to weight gain. What if you could get off the diet roller coaster for good. Put your history of yo yo dieting on the shelf, imagining the possibilities of your time and energy weren't consumed by counting calories or macros, weighing food or yourself researching the next best thing, only to have it not work again. Imagine the possibilities of reconnecting with yourself feeling confident both at the office and at home. Finally, trusting yourself and your body. You've been conditioned to think you're the problem that you can't stick to a diet because you lack willpower, that you need to look a certain way. And I get that I get that so much friend. Those messages are all around us. The grocery store checkout, every time we turn on the TV or scroll social media. But it doesn't have to be this way. You can feel at peace around food. You can quiet the negative voices in your head, you can learn to be gentle with yourself, both with food and your body. I can help you just like I've helped hundreds of women get off the diet roller coaster, and their struggle with emotional eating, make peace with their bodies, and reshape their beliefs and thoughts about themselves to create confidence. I often hear from women that they want a safe place to heal their relationship with food and body somewhere that has other women going through similar struggles. And with a supportive guide. And they don't want to pay an arm and a leg for it. We've got enough body image struggles already. No need to pay with our body parts. That's why I'm studying the mind body eating collective. Be aware, the name may change, I'm not completely sold on it. I'm also embracing imperfect action, because otherwise I would fret and dither about creating the perfect name. And this thing would never come to be. In fact, that's already happened. I've been mulling this idea over since early 2021. That's over a year friend. The Mind Body eating collective or whatever the future name is, is your golden ticket to having more energy, confidence, food freedom and less guilt and shame. Being able to eat whatever you want and look in the mirror and not hate what you see. So how does that work? What each month I'm going to release a specific lesson on healing your relationship with food and your body. This will come in the form of a PDF workbook and or video audio training that covers the topic for that month in a way that's easily digestible and equips you to make changes in your life. The goal is not to cram your brain with a lot of new information, but to teach you one new strategy, way of thinking or thing to practice within your life. Because when we focus on all the things, nothing gets done. But when we focus on one thing, magic starts to unfold. When each month we're going to hop on a live training call where I and or guest expert teach you everything you need to know about that month's topic. During the call, you have the opportunity to ask any questions you might have about the monthly topic. I want to make sure you're getting the most out of these monthly topics.

Now how many programs have you purchased or taking part in that continually throw information at you and expect you to keep up I hate that. I joined a course get all the info, and then be left wondering how in the world I was going to use it. The Mind Body gaining Collective is different. I want you to understand the information as well as I do, which is why we have dedicated time to peruse the information, process it and then put it into practice. And after you've spent a week or so practicing the strategy, way of thinking or new skill, there are going to be things that likely pop up. This is where coaching and conversations come in handy. During these live bi weekly calls. You can join live or submit your questions in advance for me to answer. This is your time to get extra support from me and have all your questions answered. A big part of my work involves helping you reconnect with your body. No more headless horsewoman for you friend. We do this through meditation and breathwork each month you can participate in the live breathwork session and or listen as often as you'd like to the recordings. These sessions are going to be 40 to 60 minutes long and will be paired with the monthly topic for me and dominium There's having the support and camaraderie of people who get what we're going through and are right there with you can make a huge difference. It's nice to know you aren't alone in your struggles with food and body. And it's even better to have a supportive group to celebrate with you. Which is why I love the group coaching format. I've also found it extremely helpful to learn from others. My hope is that you come for the personal transformation, and that the connections you make, and the support you get enriches your overall experience. So let's recap that real quick. You're going to get a monthly lesson, you're going to have a monthly training call, implementation time, bi weekly coaching calls, meditation and breath work designed specifically for that month's lesson, community support, and exclusive access to me via the weekly meetings and our private Facebook group. So you might be wondering, who is this for this membership is for you. If you're ready to get off and stay off the diet roller coaster, you want more energy, you want to feel confident, you want to quiet the negative thoughts, you're self motivated, and you're ready to try something completely different. Now I have a special offer for you. This founding member rate is only available to a limited number of people, my hopes and having you as an OG member. Remember, for those that don't know, that means original gangster Borden, call it the original girls. My hope is that having you as an OG member is to create that safe foundation for you and everyone else that joins as an OG or at a later date. Keeping it small in the beginning allows us to create strong relationships with each other, and gives me some grace as I work out all the details and technical functions. As a founding member, you lock in your membership at an unbelievable rate, have access to unbelievable rates on any of my other courses that aren't included in the membership, and help create the community you want and need. If you're interested, I invite you to look at all the details. I just went over by clicking the link in the show notes. If this is for you. Great. I'm looking forward to working with you. We officially began August 1. If this doesn't sound like something you want. That's okay. Still want to work with me. Let's schedule a chat to see how I can best help. And if now's not a good time. I totally get that. This podcast is here for you to listen whenever you'd like. And as we wrap up today, I want to give you a heads up that in episode 55 Next week, I'm joined by Dr. Maggie Landis. We chat about the Health at Every Size approach to health care how to navigate your future doctor's appointments, and she answers some of my community's questions. So until next time, friend, be well